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If you know me or have read my articles, you probably already know that I prefer my karate to be practical and pragmatic. But on occasion, I write from a more philosophical side, aiming to add some balance and hopefully encourage readers to think and question.
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It’s a common misconception that the martial arts is all about fighting. When people think of martial artists, they often envision someone skilled in physical combat, capable of defeating opponents with ease. While the martial arts can provide the tools for self-defense, its deeper lessons are about something far more profound: understanding why not to fight.
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The first lesson in any martial art is not about how to hit harder or faster – it’s about controlling yourself. Think about it, through disciplined training, if you take your training seriously, you learn to control emotions, temper impulses, and remain calm under pressure. In this way, the martial arts fosters a level of self-control that often negates the need for conflict. A person confident in their abilities no longer feels the urge to prove themselves through physical confrontation.
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In my opinion, this is the problem with schools that teach students only to fight. No matter how skilled you become, fighting first isn’t always the answer, and there will always be someone more experienced.
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This understanding should breed humility, keeping ego in check. It’s often the most skilled martial artists who are the least likely to seek a fight because they understand the responsibility that comes with their knowledge and ability. In effect, the martial arts should teach humility.
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Perhaps the most valuable lesson that can be taught is the ability to avoid conflict altogether. The wisdom to assess a situation and choose the path of least resistance – one that doesn’t involve violence – is crucial. It teaches how to de-escalate situations, knowing that fighting is always the last resort, not the first.
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Of course, I realize there are times when you have no choice; I’ve experienced this myself on far too many occasions.
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But knowing how to defend yourself and having confidence in your abilities brings a heavy responsibility. It’s important to understand the potential consequences of violence – the harm it can cause, both physically and emotionally. This awareness should create a natural hesitation to use force – not hesitation in defending yourself, but a preference for peaceful resolution whenever possible.
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Someone recently commented, “It is better to be judged by twelve than carried by six.” While this old adage may seem practical in life-or-death situations, it reflects a reactive and aggressive mindset that contrasts with the teachings of the martial arts. The martial arts promotes the idea that true strength lies in avoiding conflict whenever possible. The goal is not to engage in violence and hope for a favorable outcome in court, but to try and prevent the situation from reaching that point in the first place.
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If you’re looking for a way to learn to fight, there are many paths you could take – but the martial arts should teach you to choose a more responsible, controlled approach to life and conflict. It’s not about teaching someone how to fight – it’s about teaching them why they shouldn’t.
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Written by AC.
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