“You must let go of the illusion of control.”
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Often you end up trying to control situations around you. You try to control people’s behavior toward you. You try to control things happening in your life. The more you try to control, the more it slips from your hands. It makes you feel irritated or angry thinking why things are not happening your way.
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What you need to do is, let go of this feeling of control, because trying to control this emotion is nothing but an illusion.
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When you think you control something, you’re wrong. It’s amazing how often we think we’re in control of something, when really we aren’t.
Control is an illusion. We have been trained to set goals, and then work on the actions that lead to those goals … and yet how often do those goals fail? How often are we trying to control a future that we cannot predict?
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People are going to be disappointed, you’re going to feel sad, happy, frustrated, elated; the bank is going to mess with your account, your son or daughter is probably going to hang out with the wrong people, your neighbour doesn’t like you.
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Did you know that in 2020, we would be witnessing the global problems we are facing today, with the COVID-19 virus, killings and looting on the streets, to name but a few? Of course not. We don’t know the future, much less control it.
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And yet we continue to believe in the illusion of control. We face a chaotic and complex world, and seek to control it however we can. You can’t control these things. It doesn’t matter how hard you try — It’s just not in your control.
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Being in the ‘present’ is the only way you can let go of that control. You can’t fully appreciate today if you worry too much about tomorrow. Realize that tomorrow is going to happen whether you worry about it or not. And since worry has never accomplished anything for anybody, redirect your mental energy elsewhere. If you can only live one moment at a time, you might as well make it the present. ??
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“You life is what your thoughts make it.” ~ Confucius